“The person you marry is the person you fight with. The house you buy is the house you repair. The dream job you take is the job you stress over. Everything comes with an inherent sacrifice.”
— Mark Manson
“If it is not a hard yes, swipe left” is the advice given in a 2017 article (Dang, www.junkee.com) titled “How to Tinder,” to help the common dating app user navigate the current swipe culture. Using this kind of impulse to make life decisions based on the superficial can create a misunderstanding of what is true and real. In our practice, we are asked to discern what is true and real in every breath. We even go as far to question our interpretation of discomfort. This is the commitment to understanding that is yoga. Your practice has already committed to you in the most mature way. It is willing to reflect to you exactly what you bring. Even our impermanent commitments follow this vow of cause and effect. What did you bring to the relationship and how did the outcome reflect that offering? This week on the mat, what are you offering? Commitment is a devotion to change together, through progress and regression, through intimacy and frustration. When we are committed, walking away is not an option in any circumstance. Our daily practice knows us well, and we can be the most careless with what is closest to us. Times of resentment and outrage are guaranteed. Close your eyes and ask, how would it feel to lose this commitment for life? The feeling in your heart and gut in that moment is your answer. In that moment you can swipe left, swipe right, or delete the app. To be in relationship is to look up and look within at what is deeper than the impulse. A commitment is not based on luck or timing or talent, but hard work and communication. Are you in this to be flattered or fulfilled? Close the app for now. Your mat is waiting.